Have you ever found yourself telling words you wished you have not spoken? Or expressing your faulty opinions that offended someone? I did. Most likely, so are you.
Were you able to speak comforting words to someone else or encourage others to become better? I also did. And so are you.
Despite my well-meaning intentions, I have had some share of thoughtless words that hurt some, even the closest persons to me. But just like you, I also have a good share of motivating words that improved others.
The truth is out from one lips, both words of healing and hurting can come out.
This adage from King Solomon comes to mind. “The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”
Here’s how we can overcome the temptations of giving reckless words coming out from our lips.
1. Think Before You Talk.
Reckless words are usually products of thoughtless minds. As such, think before you talk.
However, if the reckless comments become a habit, it naturally comes out and poses a danger to everybody, even “the reckless” speaker itself.
That’s why the weight is on the character of the person, not merely on his words. It’s because everyone can see if the person speaks out from his mindless heart or simply a slip of tongue.
As such, the cure of reckless words is a thinking mind. Ask yourself. Am I using the right words to say in order to convey the right message I want to send?
2. Talk, But Think About Its Implications.
We all have speaking styles, but the substance of what we say is often shrouded by the way we speak.
Don’t let your method of speaking diminish your message. It’s because reckless words “pierce like swords.” It cuts through the heart and wounds the feelings, even leaves a scar to the spirit.
When we use words or say something, our minds might be thinking of a particular meaning. However, it might not be the same meaning that the recipient has in mind.
As such, we also need to consider the implications of our words from the point of view of the listener. We might be using the same words but the meaning might also come out different, depending on the one hearing it.
So let’s be careful about our assumptions. Our generalizations might be faulty at the very core due to the particular situation of the person listening. Reckless words might just find you in a very uncomfortable situation.
3. Try to Be Better Next Time.
There’s a big difference between a slip of the tongue and a habitual remark. Even “the wise” can commit mistakes, but a reckless fool is guaranteed to make many.
But everyone has a place for growth. A wise man become wiser, and a fool can change his ways. Why do we need to grow?
It’s because in the midst of all our imperfections, God has given everyone of us the ability to become better than who we are yesterday, even in the way we communicate to each other.
There is always a greater room for improvement in verbal communication. Either we can use to heal others or hurt them. There will always be an aftereffect for every word we say.
Remember this. If someone plants reckless words, he shall reap it in due season. There is a tendency that if a fool speaks, he can find someone who can talk back to him in the same manner, even much more.
Let us strive to speak the right words at the right time. Even if you have the best intentions at heart, if your way of telling the truth is thoughtless, it can hurt people. But wise words “brings healing” to a wounded heart.
Chose your words wisely. They might show who you are really.
Glenn Plastina (c) 2017