Are you in a habit of trying to please all people around you?
Do you find yourself helpless in saying, “No”?
Are you so concerned with what others would say in that you can’t decide for yourself?
Have you heard of this? “Too many people spend money they haven’t earned, to buy things they don’t want, to impress people they don’t like.”
Whether Will Smith or Dave Ramsay originally said it, the principle is the same. A lot of people are wasting their lives on things that doesn’t matter just to please people.
What can you do to avoid the trap of pleasing people?
1. Be Clear.
This is the truth. You cannot please people at all times.
Even the most likable people in this world have people who just dislike and hate them.
Despite that he is loved by billions, Jesus is still the most disliked person in this world. He was, and is, and will always be rejected by many.
When Trump won the presidency, he became the most liked as well as most hated man In the US. What Americans did not realize was that, Obama too was the most liked and hated person.
They all faced rejections from people who did not vote for them. Of course, those who lost the election suffered the most.
The lesson is this. The more popular you are, the more people would love or hate you. Either way, you still face the reality that you cannot please all people.
2. Be Cautious.
Lecrae, a Christian rapper, said, “If you live for people’s acceptance, you’ll die from their rejection.”
You cannot afford to live your life just to please people. Check you attitude.
Like St. Paul, he was cautious about this reality in life. “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”
Now don’t be too quick to judge apostle Paul as indifferent, arrogant, self-righteous religious who cannot be pleased by anyone. Far from it. He is only cautious in pleasing the wrong people.
The point is. If you keep on pleasing the wrong people, you can never have the right life. That’s the worst attitude and character you’ll develop as a person or leader.
3. Be Conscious.
Pleasing people is not always wrong.
Making your parents proud, good friends happy, and customers satisfied, and the like are some forms of positive ways of pleasing people.
Know the right place to please the right people.
At work, pleasing your superiors is good–in fact, it is important to make them look good and esteem them highly with respect and dignity–but the best attitude here is to do it in the spirit of love, integrity, and excellence.
You should know when to please the right people with peace of mind. Don’t flatter, but give honor to whom honor is due. Put their dreams or wishes with due consideration.
There will always be two sides of life and attitude of people. There are those who like or dislike, receive or reject, love or hate, and the like. Trying to meet those expectations always is an illusion.
In the end, the best way to please people is still to please God.
Glenn Plastina (c) 2017