You were given an impression that everything is true, then you found out later everything was a lie. You’re simply just another fall guy.
Both the words and actions were carefully weaved into a trap to make you fall once you’re on top. That craft of deceiving someone caused you so much pain, because you are the victim.
How will you transform yourself from a victim into a victor? Let me share what I did that might help you.
1. Stand On What Is Right.
You need to understand that deception is premeditated and intentional. That seemingly mistaken impression is actually a pre-planned deception.
A wise king once said, “The plans of the righteous are just, but the advice of the wicked is deceitful.”
However, never compromise your conscience. It might be painful, but it’s only passing. Trust me, time can heal.
So instead of swimming yourself in the mud of those lying lips, get out from that feeling of being ensnared. You can’t afford to waste your life on anything that’s wrong from the start.
There is no easy way to say this, but it is better to be deceived than to be the deceiver. Cheats don’t last. Soon they’ll be exposed.
2. Stay Truthful.
The hardest part of deception is not on deceiving anyone else but on deceiving oneself as if everything you did is true, yet in fact, it’s a lie. Indeed, “the heart is deceitful above all things.”
When someone causes you to believe in a lie as something to be true, the truth of the matter is still on your side. So stick to the truth.
This is not easy. Neither for David who prayed, “Save me, Lord, from lying lips and from deceitful tongues.”
Once you were cheated by someone, the feeling is no longer what matters most, but the truth.
The fact that you’re aware of spoken lies means God is giving you the wisdom to learn about the power of truth. Lies can’t bury it. In the end, he who stays in the truth stands.
3. Succeed With Integrity.
Being caught in a snare you weren’t aware of is just part of your growth, even if it’s just a game for those who planned it.
Usually the hidden purpose of deception is to gain personal advantage from somebody’s trust or to profit from someone’s services, expertise, and efforts. As such, deception is a deliberate act of lying to gain something at the expense of the one being deceived.
However, you may have thought that you lost something when you were deceived and felt unaware. But you can actually gain something from it. Your loss can be your gain.
Your sad experiences from any forms of deception made against you can be an enriching moment for your future success. As long as your integrity is intact, eventually, it’s not your loss, but to the one who deceived you.
As for you, let not deception be you path. As St. Paul said, “Rather, we have renounced secret and shameful ways; we do not use deception, nor do we distort the word of God.” It’s because deception is unbecoming of anyone who profess to know or serve God.
Glenn Plastina (c) 2017